Am I in the wrong?
This person came to my world and asked me to help them to defeat some local legends. This person told me they don't have any natlan or nod-krai characters to help fighting those legends. Bases on their profile they even can't (yet) clear abyss floor 9+.
The thing is I'm just a low spender and most of my characters aren't decently built. My strongest characters are, probably, my c1 flins, c1 arle, and c0 mauvika.
Based on my experience fighting these legends, my characters alone are not enough to carry the fight, let alone getting the 2nd and 3rd achievement. So I suggest this person to look for a player that have strong vertical investment (a whale) to carry them. But in the end they called me lazy and stupid.
I might be too sensitive, but this is clearly ruin my co-op experience and kinda put me in the bad mood. But I want to ask from your perspective, am I in the wrong?
P.S. sorry for the bad grammar, english is not my first language
The thing is I'm just a low spender and most of my characters aren't decently built. My strongest characters are, probably, my c1 flins, c1 arle, and c0 mauvika.
Based on my experience fighting these legends, my characters alone are not enough to carry the fight, let alone getting the 2nd and 3rd achievement. So I suggest this person to look for a player that have strong vertical investment (a whale) to carry them. But in the end they called me lazy and stupid.
I might be too sensitive, but this is clearly ruin my co-op experience and kinda put me in the bad mood. But I want to ask from your perspective, am I in the wrong?
P.S. sorry for the bad grammar, english is not my first language
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I think you could have been a bit more forthcoming and just give it a try, if you want to help. It feels a bit weird that you first want to offer help, but then ask them if they have good chars they can bring. I don't think they'd ask if they had these chars.
Or, if you feel like you lack the character strength, tell them you can't help.
The other person clearly comes off as immature and impatient though \^\^'
**But much more important:**
You already communicated that you don't think your chars are strong enough. but then the conversation awkwardly dragged on regardless and went nowhere. Mostly due to them not getting the point, really\^\^'
I appreciate your willingness to help find a solution and your patience to put up with this type of player, but I don't think they were worth your time. So don't give too much thought to this.
He probably bought the account or was extremely casual, so he thought you could carry him on your own and you asking him what he had and explaining you can't do a local legend cause you killed it already probably made him think you're making excuses not to do anything.
Not saying he's right or wrong, he's just ignorant.
I'm not saying you were wrong, but I think that sometimes our excessive care can go off. It could sound like you were just stalling the person and trolling them, for example, in their point of view.
There is absolutely no reason to be mean, in any way. They could have just thanked and left.
Expecting anything from people certainly is a sure way to ruin our day. Most of us are stressed out, sad, needing some care that the world just won't give to us, and these things can be quite tiring.
It's always the best thing to think of others as the same as us, and treat everyone the way we would like to be treated, without expecting them to do the same, purely out of love for them, just like Jesus taught us.
In any way, hopefully you moved on from it. We can't get it right all the time, some times we are at completely different 'waves' than the other person, and on a written platform, we won't convey exactly what we want to say to a person who is understanding it on another level.
And when things don't go right, don't feel guilty, but just use the situation to improve for a next time. Our actions can make people sad or angry and honestly there's not much we can do about that when it comes from a wanting to do good, from our hearts.
It's just that... Sometimes people aren't looking for perfection, or the best that can be offered. They just want the best *we* can offer at the moment, even if it doesn't end well.
Even if our best may not get it done, at least we tried doing it together. Sometimes what counts is that helping hand, not solving the problem entirely.
All the best for you and hopefully you're feeling better by now!